I may not be "old and wise" like a lot of people who tell you that life is short and you need to make the best out of a bad situation…hell, I’m not even out of my 20’s yet and I won’t be for a few more years. HOWEVER I will say this: life is way too short to worry about the negativity that might surround your life. You will get hit with challenges that you feel you won’t be able to handle on your own and you know what? That’s ok because there’s a huge chance that you won’t have to face them alone. For example, I am pregnant with a little girl, I am not married or engaged (and neither will happen anytime soon), and things between me and the father are just plain…let’s just say that it’s best he and I stay away from each other. When I found out I was pregnant, I was terrified and cried myself to sleep every single night because of the guilt I felt, guilt because I feel like I let my dad down and most likely made him think that he failed as a parent to prevent me getting in a situation like this. Now that some time has passed and I am about 16 weeks away from having my little girl, I’ve accepted the fact that I am going to be a mother and, as much as I wish her father and I could somewhat get along it’s not going to happen. It wasn’t until 3 weeks ago that I was truly happy, excited and mentally prepared to have this child because of all the support from my friends and family and also because after losing my mom almost a year ago (4/28/12), there’s been a hole in my heart and in my dad’s (as well as the rest of our family but mostly us it seems) and hearing the news that baby is a baby girl is helping us get through the days a little better.
Every mother out there can tell you that having that first child is one of the biggest challenges in a woman’s life but that’s a perfect example of something that someone doesn’t have to deal with on their own. I wish I could say I knew what a man’s biggest challenge in life is but I can’t because from most guys that I’ve been with I haven’t really been able to see anything that they can relate to, unless of course their biggest challenge is hoping that they are able to provide their families with the things they need or hope to have that chance. I don’t know, so if there are any guys who would like to share a “big challenge in life” thought go for it.
Yes there are some things that we get help with when it comes to life, but there are some things that we need to learn to do on our own. In most cases these things are the ones that will, in one way or another, be life changing either for the better or worse and you can’t let someone else influence you to make a choice because later on you might realize that it’s not something that you wanted but will be too late to change what happens next to fit in to your life the way you’d want it to.
My point is that regardless of what your situation is, be it being bullied because of your weight, sexuality, religion, or pregnancy, the loss of a loved one, or any other struggle in your life you can’t let it take over you. What you should do is find a friend or family member(s) that you can trust and talk to because it’s not good to keep everything bottled in and feel alone. You got to live life to the fullest and enjoy everything that you do because you never know when you might lose the chance to do something that you’ve wanted to do/try. Don’t let bullies make you feel afraid because chances are that they have something going on in their own lives that they aren’t happy about so they take it out on their victims. GET UP AND DUST YOURSELF OFF EVEN WHEN IT SEEMS LIKE IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO DO SO, anyone can do it if they really want it so don’t ever let anyone convince you that you can’t.
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